Safety Tips - Members and Guests

 Quickie Tips for Escort Customer First Timers

  1. Escorts don't sell sex.
  2. Escorts offer themselves as company.
  3. Escorts don't talk about sex and neither should you!
  4. Leave the money on the dresser or coffee table in plain view.
  5. Again, don't talk about sex.


First Things First: Do Your Homework

Spending a little bit of time online is all it takes to save you from the risk of having a bad experience or getting ripped off from one of the lesser quality providers. If you don't do your homework you are leaving to chance the outcome of your experience and will have no one to blame but yourself if you meet the "Escort from hell."

A good place to start is to look at reviews to see what other clients are saying about companions. These reviews give information about looks, appearance, timeliness, professionalism, attitude, and the types of services provided.

Some of the savvier escorts have suggestions to etiquette, and please take these suggestions seriously as this is their way of advertising their preferred way of doing business. Take the time to read through their entire advert not just at photos and contact details.


Initial Contact

For a first phone call, keep it simple. Say something like: "Hi, I am Dave and will like to request an appointment with you. ".

Do NOT say, " I need it bad ", "or "Please Do me !" or " Do you do Greek?,  Full Service, or Bareback?" To do so on the very first call will be a bad first impression. Keep the conversation simple and respectful.

I'm Dave from Randburg . I visited your escort ad on and I woild like to make an appointment to see you. I will be in your town from this date to that date. I was wondering if you might have time available during my visit?

Most escorts reject calls from private numbers so bear that in mind. Use a number which is visible and also where you can be contacted. This is the first step in showing the escort you have no hidden agenda. Generally most escorts do not respond to sms message from new clients so refrain from that as well.

You can also ask about the escorts first meeting policies.



This doesn't mean your drivers license, or passport or ID book. This refers to escort references. If you've never seen an escort and have no references, then the escort you are trying to book is going ask for information that will appease thier concerns that you are not some police officer or other government agency trying to entrap them. Escorts will also want to make sure you do not have a bad reputation for ripping off or abusing escorts.

Therefore the escort is going to ask for what seems like personal information. Not your bank account number, atm pin, etc so relax don't fight it. These questions are merely to protect and attempt to prevent potential problems. Keep in mind the escort wants to make the appointment too and has a vested interest in "discretion." Some escorts ask for a little information, some ask for more. If you refuse to provide the information you can forget about an appointment in most cases, especially with the quality providers. Verification is a safety process you normally can't negotiate. Either you meet the terms and respect them or move on.

If this is your first time let your companion know. Most escorts will appreciate your candor. Share your favorites, likes and dislikes with your companion. If you are bit nervous that is understandable. Most escorts are fantastic and will quickly put you at ease. This is not the time to be shy, bluff your way through, or tough it out!! Make sure you have agreed on what she expects as her reward. Finalize the date, time, place, length of your meeting.



Some Escorts will only meet you in a public place the first time while others will come right to your room. There are a few who prefer a quick 15 or 20 minutes for get to know you over a drink the day before.

This information is what you need to learn, during your communications leading up to your meeting. Now is NOT the time to become NEEDY or a phone stalker. Some escorts are very talkative and will call you more than a few times. Others may only call once or twice. Follow thier lead and again respect thier wishes.

What if a man answers? There will be cases where you call (Make sure your phone# is NOT blocked) the number on the web site an a man answers. Don't Panic! Calmly and politely say a greeting "hello", "good afternoon" followed by, did I dial 555-1212 or whatever the published number is on or I was hoping to speak to Lee. Often you HAVE dialed the right number and yes her bookings are done by a man. No problem! Conduct yourself like you would in any other professional situation. They have a service you want and you are calling to contract those services. Just remember the same discretion rules of what you can and can not say STILL apply. Asking " so buddy, how much for a BJ " or " have you dated her yourself " is a guaranteed hang up. It also screams " Hi I'm a dumb ass with no class. "


The Big Date With your Escort

Nothing can be stressed more here than be Clean and well groomed. Be freshly showered, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and YES, you should be dressed.

Answering the door in your white boxers works fine for scaring away Jehovah Witnesses but it is bad for a first meeting with an escort. The only pleasure you will have is the probability of watching your companion walk away.

Be level headed, alcohol and drug free and have no drugs in the room if you partake in that sort of thing. After an escort gets to know you and feels comfortable with you he/she/they may enjoy a glass of wine with you. Falling down drunk or drugged out is also a bad idea. Companions of a certain caliber will leave immediately if you fall into either two of these categories.

So, there your companion is, standing in the doorway, invite them in and offer them a seat. The usual visitor's rules apply here like ask if your escort wants something to drink. Expect to sit and chat for a little bit to break the ice. Have a glass of, juice, soda or wine. However, don't be put off if your escort refuses alcoholic beverages nor push the issue. Smile, respect it and have something else to offer just in case.

Be a considerate client by having the reward in a clean envelope in plain sight. Some will excuse themselves and go to the bathroom to check all is in order. There are some places the companion will see the envelope but say nothing or even touch it till the end of the meeting.

After the small chit chat, your companion may or may not excuse themself to the bathroom while telling you to "get comfortable".

This is your sign to "get undressed". Remember her boundaries and that No means No! If you're a bit nervous most escorts will sense this and lead you through the meeting. Remember attitude is key. If you are polite, act like a gentleman/lady and treat the escort with respect and dignity, you are pretty much going to have a good time.

If a GFE (Girl Friend Experience) or PSE (Porn Star Experience) is performed, expect Condoms to be used. DON'T EVEN ASK NOT TO!

If the escort offers a BBBJ (Oral Sex Without Condom), only you can decide if you can accept the risk. Some escorts will, some won't. If you can't accept the risk, ask for a condom. Some escorts will kiss, some won't. All of these things should be no surprise to you if you have done your homework. Then expect some more small talk at the end.


Outcall Appointments

If you book an escort to come to your home, apartment, or hotel room, please make sure there is a convenient place to park. Make sure your place and play space is clean and neat so the escort feels comfortable. It's always a good idea to have some beverages available, from bottled water, to wine or  beer. If you like to drink or need a drink to ease your first time nerves, that's okay, just make sure you are not drunk when your escort arrives. Unless you have a beard or mustache, be clean shaven, freshly showered, and maybe even a light hint of cologne or aftershave. You may wear clothers or a robe, but do not greet the escort at the door in your birthday suit.


Incall Appointments

If you get an escort's incall location, please treat this information carefully. Do not share it with anyone else or accidentally allow it to fall in anyone else's posession. If you are concerned about safety use google to survey the area and surroundings. Trust your instincts, if you get tells you it's not the right location for you to be in, cancel the appointment or agree to move to a location where both of you are comfortable. Respect the privacy of the escorts place at all time. Do not go anywhere you are not instructed to go, do not snoop, do not put your feet up on the furniture. That may be fine at your place but. Do not ever ever show up without an appointment! In case you missed that, read it again and live by it. Privacy is important in this type of industry and you don't want to be seen unexpectedly just like the next client. Appointments, appointments, appointments. If you are late or running late communicate this before you get to the escorts place not after.