Safety Tips - Escorts

Booking An Incall

  • Never do incall appointments to your home with a first time caller, this compromises your home safety, unless he/she/they have references from reputable escorts you can check with.
  • If you do incall, keep your vehicle, and house or apartment doors locked at all times. Stalkers and boundary crossers may come visit when you are not at home.
  • Best to have a security system as well, especially when an incall goes badly and you need to hit a panic button.
  • For Incall, emphasize that you do not accept, nor appreciate drop-ins and to respect your schedule and privacy.
  • Don't have any money, or valuables in the room you entertain clients in.
  • Have a great discreet hiding spot.
  • Don't have your ID, personal mail with your real name and address, or any personal items in the room with you where a stranger can obtain your real name or personal information.
  • If you do incall from an apartment or condo, or hotel, don't tell your customer your unit or room number until after he/she/they arrives and calls you to tell you he/she/they has/have arrived and you verified his arrival. This way you can look out to see if anyone else, or other vehicles, arrived with your appointment to determine if it is safe to give your unit or room number.


Booking An Outcall To A Client's Home

  • Try to verify the outcall address through Google to verify the address is real. Get a feel for the safety of the neighborhood. See if the house is in a good neighborhood or the house has been condemned, or you're being summoned to a vacant lot or an industrial park. (Seriously it's happened)
  • Use a driver for security on outcalls if possible
  • If you drive yourself, let someone you trust know where you are going and how long you expect to be there.
  • When you arrive, text someone to let them know that you arrived safely and the client(s) and the outcall location looks okay.
  • When you arrive at an outcall, check your mirrors and all around you, before getting out of your vehicle.
  • Let the client know that you need to check in periodically (via text) to let someone know you are safe.


Booking An Outcall

  • Verify the home address or hotel is an actual address, so that you don't arrive to find out you've been the victim of a practical joke or prank or worse.
  • Do NOT rely on your dates for transportation to and from your appointments. You don't want a complete stranger picking you up at your home, nor do you want to depend on them bringing you back if things don't work out.
  • For Outcall appointments, use a driver when possible or let someone know the location of where you're going.
  • If the customer is at a hotel and you are to meet them at their room, get their real name and room number, then later call the hotel desk asking for him by his real name to verify he is a registered guest. If the hotel doesn't have his name registered, he's not checked in yet, or he gave you a fake name either way, RED FLAG!
  • Outcall appointments are usually safer in an upscale hotel.
  • Don't book calls with any clients who insist that you do NOT use a driver or taxi.
  • Don't book calls with any clients who want you to show up and do a car date.



Arriving At An Outcall

  • Always be extremely aware and in tune with your surroundings.
  • If you are going to a client’s private home or hotel, drive by the house first to check for signs that might suggest “something is not right.” For example, if the house is dark, empty, or abandoned. If there are several cars in the driveway indicating others are there, or you hear loud music coming from the house indicating a party is going on, or the music is an excuse for the client not to hear you so they don’t answer the door. Or you see more than one person in or around the house, or men sitting in cars parked  near the house. If you feel something is wrong call the client on your mobile to discuss your concerns, if you don’t get answers that satisfy you then cancel the booking. Do it while you are safe in your car or taxi, not at the door or inside their place.
  • Carry in your purse only what you need, and no personal ID or real information about yourself. No mail or bills, no check books, credit cards, bank deposit slips. Many bad clients are stalker types who seek to obtain your real name, your residential address, and address, etc.
  • Let the client know, or give him the impression that there is someone (driver) waiting outside for you, even if you are not using a driver.
  • At the start of the booking call someone (a friend, maybe a relative or even your own answering machine). This will let the client know that someone else knows where you are and that your whereabouts can be traced.


Before Starting The Session

  • Your Donation should be available and in full view. If it is not, politely ask for donation saying you will find that aspect of business more pleasant if you can get it out of the way beforehand. Actually this is for you to protect you from getting ripped off with the client saying he/she/they forgot the wallet/purse in the car, or needs to go to an ATM.
  • While it is better for the client to have your donation on the bathroom counter where you can check the money (for counterfeit) and to make sure the full amount is there, if it isn't, you can always excuse yourself to the bathroom and discretely check the donation you received.


During The Appointment

  • Be confident and assertive from the moment you arrive. It's important to be in control and stay in control of the situation.
  • Be polite and friendly, it's often the best way to keep control even when the client is behaving like a jerk.
  • Don't leave anything laying around the customer can go through.
  • Be aware of every thing the customer is doing.
  • If you must use the bath room at any time, even to shower afterward, take your purse with you, and perhaps lock the bathroom door.
  • If a customer is at your incall, do not let them wander through out your place. Restrict customers to your work space only.


When Things Go Bad

  • If you sense trouble coming, try to avoid it. Change the conversation, always be pleasant.
  • If the client starts talking down to you, or calling you bad names, turn things around, be assertive and take back control. Bad clients may test you to see what they can get away with and push you to those limits.
  • Or if you can't alter the direction things are going. Take notice, find a polite reason to leave.
  • If you want to leave and the client forces you to stay or won't let you leave, you can scream for help.
  • If you are at your incall, you can always have security or pretend to have your neighbor or security as your check in.
  • Or, you can throw something through a window, the noise will surely attract attention if it is a desparate situation.


When Good Clients Go Bad

  • Many Clients forget you are providing a service and get emotionally attached.
  • Some clients feel that after a few visits, you may owe them a freebie. They may not discuss it with you, they will just short your pay or simply not pay you after the visit. so always get the donation up front and verify the amount.
  • Some clients feel that after a few visits that you owe them something more or special like unprotected services.
  • Always be aware of what you're doing and saying so you don't lead them on.
  • Always be cordial, pleasant, and professional.
  • Don't get involved in a client's personal life or problems.
  • A client's personal problems are not your problems.
  • Just because a client spends money on you, doesn't mean you owe them anything more outside your service.
  • Stay  emotionally healthy by being emotionally detached.
  • Don't get involved with your clients or date them.
  • Do not marry your client's. One day the fantasy will end, and he will discover that, "Having is not the same as Wanting!"
  • Many clients have issues with women, and therefore do not, or can not, have normal healthy relationships with women. That is why they pay for your time and services. Keep this in mind and remember to not ever get involved, date, or marry your customers. "Pretty Woman" was a movie, a Hollywood fantasy, and not a reflection of real life.
  • Never succumb to threats of bad reviews, or outing you to your family or real job, or your landlord. This is the first sign the client is an insecure control freak stalker.


Avoiding Health Issues

  • If you do Full House, GFE (Girlfriend Experience), and/or PSE (Porn Star Experience), always always always wear a condom. Always use condoms for oral, vaginal, and anal sex, and when using sex toys. The price you may pay for not doing this, could be with your life.
  • Always inspect the client's body the best you can for wounds, sores, scabs, red bumps.
  • If you see sores, use protection, or better yet, avoid contact or cancel appointment.
  • Have yourself tested frequently.
  • Check your client for STDs, especially for crabs, sores, herpes blisters and warts. Condoms do not always protect you 100% against these.
  • Do not use massage oils as lube. They break down the condom rubber. Use water-based lube and wipe off any massage oil before you put the condom on.
  • Use your own condoms, not your client's. some clients have weird fetish fantasies about getting you pregnant, so they put pin holes n the condom, cut the tip off, or otherwise do something that allows the condom to break during vigorous activities.
  • Be aware that Nonoxynol 9 condoms cause medical problems for some ladies. Nonoxynol 9 can remove nail polish so it is best not to use it on regular basis.
  • Putting on a condom with your mouth is useful if the client does not want to use them, but this can eroticise condom use.
  • If you use xylocaine, be aware of the risks. It is not advisable to use xylocaine for penetrative sex. Due to the numbing effect, you are less likely to feel any injury or become aware that a condom has broken. Xylocaine can numb the client’s penis, and make it difficult for him to cum.
  • If the client does not take no for an answer about using condoms, suggest another activity such as Spanish sex (between the breasts) or hand relief with lube.
  • If the client refuses to use some or any safety measure for safe activities, best you end the appointment and leave!
  • You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to.
  • When it comes to detecting an STD, TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!! Be safe, not sorry!
  • If you sense or see something's really wrong, smell a bad discharge, just get out! Leave politely, say something like, I've forgotten my special bag and have to get it from the car. Or I have to let my driver know you're OK and I'll be staying, and then leave.


Poor Hygiene

  • Remember that if you find a particular client distasteful, or offensive, no amount of money is worth having to service them.
  • Suggest he/she/they shower, or you bath them and make it part of the session.
  • Many clients who suffer from bad hygiene suffer from depression, alcoholism, and may be subject to mood or personality changes if they feel offended or are sensitive about their weight or health condition. Approach with caution, be respectful, sensitive, and understanding.


Stimulants - Alcohol - Drugs

  • Don’t accept a drink that has already been opened or that you have not seen being made.
  • Do not drink beverages that you did not open yourself.
  • Remember that alcohol begins to impair your judgment with the first drink.
  • Do not share or exchange beverages with anyone you don't know and trust.
  • If someone offers you a beverage from a bar at a club or a party, accompany the person to order your beverage, watch it being poured and carry the beverage yourself.
  • Do not leave your beverage unattended while talking, dancing, using the restroom, or making a phone call.
  • If you realize that your beverage has been left unattended, discard it.
  • Do not drink (swallow) anything that has an unusual taste or appearance, (salty taste, excessive foam, unexplained residue, etc.)
  • Monitor your drinking. A drink to relax is one thing, but too many drinks may place yourself in danger.
  • Never be afraid to say no thank you, or... No thanks, I’ve had enough.
  • Make sure you are not under the influence of alcohol of drugs when visiting clients. Too much alcohol will affect your judgment and ability to protect yourself.


Fantasy Fetish, Role Play, Dominance, and BDSM Providers

  • Set your rules and make sure client knows you are in control.
  • Check for client references.
  • Screen carefully.
  • If you are doing a domination service, before you start make sure client knows what they may be in for.
  • Beware and on your guard for client's who speak of or joke about switching or turning the tables on you.
  • Have them sign legal waivers to protect you, so if things go wrong, you have some legal protection.
  • Have clients understand safe words, and that it is okay to use them.
  • Make sure clients are not drunk or drugged during appointments. Anything that depresses their senses is not safe for them nor for you.


Extra Tips For Escort Agency Workers

  • Let your agency know what service you will or won’t perform.
  • Find out how your agency operates with bounced checks, and credit card fraud charge backs before committing to an appointment prepaid with such.
  • Always ring the agency when you leave or extend a booking. You should have a code between yourself and the receptionist to use if you are in trouble.


When It's Time to Leave or Cancel on a Jerk(s)!

  • When the client tells you “I left my wallet in my car. I’ll go an ATM afterwards and come back.”
  • When the client tells you, “I forgot my wallet, I’ll make it up to you next time.”
  • When the client tells you he/she/they has/have drugs to barter or exchange for your services.